Mumbai: Sometimes a place might give you a very positive and warm vibe, while others might make you feel cold and negative. “These are energies, both positive and negative, and they are always around us” says psychic and healer Sharmila Cirvante.
She said, “Have you realized how some places just don’t make you feel comfortable, however attractive, beautiful, or well-designed they may be? Nothing is visibly wrong, but the air feels heavy, as though it is full of tension. That is negative energy, which the house has picked up over the years, quietly and slowly feeding off the inherent unhappiness, such as frequent arguments, cold silences, constant criticism, or emotional withdrawal.”
She, however, mentioned that people won’t realize these signs even though they affect them in unusual ways. She said, “A feeling of constant tiredness or not wanting to be at home. Arguments erupting for no reason. Children become clingy or irritable. Misunderstandings cropping up between even the most loving families. Children feel it first. They are energy barometers.”
“In India, where joint families often mean shared spaces and blended emotions, children absorb not just their parents’ stress but also the collective tension of the household. This can show up as poor academic performance, withdrawal, or frequent illness,” she added.
Sharmila feels the bitter truth is that we ourselves are responsible for creating negative energy. She said, “Lack of quality time with family, bringing work home, sacrificing sleep and proper meals, physical and mental clutter, complaining more than conversing.” All these disconnect people emotionally and create loneliness and unhappiness.”
She mentioned that the home quietly absorbs this negative energy and said, “Everything we do—our thoughts, actions, words, and emotions—is considered to be vibrating energy that impacts individuals, environments, and karma.” The home picks up these energetic frequencies. If a house is being exposed to years of unresolved arguments, financial stress, grief, or chronic anxiety, imagine the environment.”
She explained that while “energy” may sound abstract, psychology gives us a grounded explanation. She said, “According to research in environmental psychology, spaces are deeply influenced by repeated emotions and behaviours.
Dr. Himanshu Rai, a behavioural expert and professor at IIM Indore, has spoken about how our physical environment is a direct reflection of our inner emotional state. When a family goes through prolonged stress, like the losses many faced during COVID-19 or business failures or long-standing health conditions like cancer, that tension seeps into the daily rhythm of the home.
Asked how to get rid of negative energy, she said, “You don’t need a pooja or dramatic renovations. Fill your home with sunlight and air; sunlight is a good source of positive energy and a natural mood regulator. Fortify yourself mentally with meditation, prayer, and a well-balanced diet. Avoid devices at mealtimes and encourage hearty conversations. Keep a gratitude journal. Declutter your space as physical order creates mental calm. Add salt to your mopping and also to your bathwater.”
“A home doesn’t become positive overnight. It becomes positive through small, intentional choices made every day,” Sharmila ended.
