Hyderabad: Philanthropist, entrepreneur, and wellness advocate Upasana Kamineni Konidela is once again creating ripples with her progressive views on women’s empowerment—this time by challenging outdated ideas of marriage. In a thought-provoking note shared on social media, Upasana called for a cultural shift in how society views marriage, urging women to choose partners from a place of strength, not societal fear or pressure.
Known for championing financial independence and holistic well-being for women, Upasana offered her perspective on what marriage should look like in modern India. “Marriage is not an obligation,” she wrote. “It’s a conscious choice—rooted in love, emotional maturity, stability, and mutual respect.” Stressing that women shouldn’t feel forced into timelines or compromises, she encouraged them to ‘Find Your Ram’—a symbolic call to find a partner who embodies dignity, compassion, and equality.
The note also tackled difficult realities, including emotional abuse, societal expectations, and toxic compromises often expected of women. Upasana’s message was clear: marriage should not be a measure of a woman’s worth or a default life milestone, but a partnership built on shared values.
“If we want to build a stronger India, we must begin by building healthier homes,” she stated, adding that educated and empowered women today are in a unique position to drive change. “Let’s encourage our women to marry from strength, not fear. No more marrying for money or status—those can be built together, with the right partner,” she wrote.
She also emphasized the importance of teaching young boys emotional intelligence and boundary-setting, advocating for a culture where men and women grow into relationships as equals. “Let’s stop forcing women into timelines—and instead give them the tools and freedom to thrive, whatever their choice may be.”
Her reflections were inspired in part by a recent discussion at Harvard with Professor Debora Spar, where participants explored why women choose to marry today. “It’s no longer about needing a man,” Upasana noted. “It’s about choosing a partner who respects you and sees you as an equal.”
The post has resonated with many across India and beyond, particularly young women navigating the expectations of tradition and personal autonomy. Her closing thought echoed a growing sentiment among a new generation of Indian women: “Let this be the New India where people live by choice, not compulsion—where tradition and progress coexist—where marriage is built on mutual respect, not sacrifice.”
Upasana’s powerful message reinforces her ongoing role as a voice for modern Indian women—rooted in tradition, but unapologetically progressive.
